The Cyberbully
Daniell is nonbinary; I didn't know if I should use they/them pronouns, but I had seen posts with he/him pronouns, so I used those. If that is incorrect, I apologize and will change it.
Earlier this month, I joined the Facebook group, "Gain and grow REAL supporters" that someone I went to middle school with had created. The premise of the group is to follow and engage with each other to gain followers for your Facebook page.
I followed a lot of people and engaged with their pages, commented on their posts, talked to some in the comments, but I noticed that there wasn't really much difference in my own page. I talked to my friend and a group moderator, Allee, about it and said that I had experienced similar issues because of ableism, but it could also just be an accident. She said if I noticed any specific names to let her know because they sometimes boot people from the group for not participating. It's fairly easy to get any two (or more) lists and compare them on a computer and get a list created that has certain names deleted. In this case, it was the list of people I'm following with my followers deleted and then that list with the ones that show up on the group members list; the result is a list of people I follow in the group that aren't my followers.
Then, I used the list as a checklist to go through and make sure I had engaged with their pages. I ended up getting overwhelmed with it and just scrapped that idea and cleaned up my list (not just from the group but the random stage ones I had) to reset. A few of them had “0 following” listed, so it looked like the group might have had some people not participating and they’d mentioned trying to reduce that.
I sent the list to Allee and talked about it a bit and we discussed that it was possibly an accident, but I have (and will soon) had it happen because of ableism. She then discussed it with Daniell and I did as well. We both asked him to just remind people to participate and then we'll go from there. In his own words, "nah fuck em." He posted the list of people and said, "I know it's not a misunderstanding, I just want to know what they have to say."
Soon after he posted it, he messaged me and accused me of lying. I had removed the people my computer generated list had created, so the people first said that I wasn't on their followers - which they would not be able to see me at that point because I had cleaned up my list of "following". Though I had interacted and engaged with their pages (complimenting a clothing store, discussing a funny logo, and then asking about acronyms, for example), they said that I had not.
I sent Daniell some screenshots to back up my side. He seemed apologetic and I thought that was it.
Yeah….. no.
First it started with the vague post on the group and it. The post itself was fine, but the comments were just completely dragging me. I decided to leave the group for my own mental health.
Allee sent some of the members screenshots of the conversations. Meanwhile, Daniell was posting about it on his page, but not using my name.
I hope every cookie you make burns
This morning though, I woke up and saw a post where he did name me and Allee. He seems embarrassed by it and claims that I am "using my disability" and "being a crybaby" among other things.
Keep in mind that this is over me talking about a moderator of a group saying that some people weren't participating in the group and that I have had this happen before due to ableism. Allee and I both asked him to just remind people to participate, but he wanted to blast them. When it backfired, he threw Allee and I under the bus and blasted me to over 3,500 people as using my disability as an excuse for people not wanting to listen to me.
This isn't a reality TV show in 2010s TLC. This is pure cyberbullying and ridiculous. I wanted him to remind people, but he chose to blast them. It didn't get the reaction he wanted (or maybe it did) and so you're sacrificing me and Allee for some internet drama. Furthermore, you're opening me up for targeted harassment and bullying based on my disability.
What is wrong with you? This is ridiculous. I mostly just watched YouTube last night, I didn't blast you anywhere (until now); why are you doing this to me? Did you want to cause drama (hence going straight to blasting) or did you think you were going to expose people?
I'm sure this isn't connected to his sale on his storefront that started today
Update
He's deleted or edited posts to make him look better and do damage control. Additionally, posting about people who lie to make themselves the victim. This is the edited version now:
