Ask Aunt Lori - privacy & handling gossip

"Aunt Lori,

I have an "invisible disability" and my family tells people about it without asking me first. I'm not ashamed of myself, but people's biases make it difficult for me when people learn about my disability. People often stop seeing me for my abilities and just see me as only my invisible disability. How do I handle this?

-Wannabe Chameleon"